Yesterday was Deepavali so Happy Deepavali to those who celebrate it. So it was a holiday and we as usual went to our favourite braksfats haunt to.. well get breakfast ! Ha !
Anyway while we were there, I saw a friend's mom busy tapau-ing food. Looking at the numbers of foam boxes she filled and other stuffs she packed I surmised she was buying for her whole house.
I don't know why the sight of her filled me with pity. Maybe because I always see her alone. Maybe because I see her do that alone almost every week, tapau-ing for her family. When I searched my memory, I remember seeing her with her family only twice. And I once saw her daughter there with her in-laws without this makcik.
Am I going to start deriding my friend ? Scorning and pointing my finger at her for not taking care of her mum ?
Nope. Because I do not know the real story. Because maybe she likes doing it.
My mom loves to menyusahkan diri dia for us. She actually buys my ikan for me. Especially now since I am always out-stationed she would inspect the contents of my freezer and if it is not filled to the brim, she would volunteer herself for the job of replenishing my supplies.
Last week she called to say that she has nasi lemak ready and when I got home, there was sambal sotong and bilis. I mean... why lah ? I could have taken her out for breakfast. Si Kamil pun dia call to mai makan when the man is at work. He called me while I was busy stuffing my face. "You makan nasi lemak kat rumah Mummy ye ?" Malam when he returned home he asked, "So.... Adik makan nasi lemak kat rumah Tok ke ?" heheheheh.. Jealous ke darling ?
The night before she called to say that she made steamboat and announced that she had just plunged the goodies into the hot boiling soup.
What ? Call me before the thing is ready lah. I could have helped you. Pegi beli fishballs ke hapa ke. Ini tidak she called me to just come and eat. Aku rasa kalau aku nganga mulut she would feed me willingly.
And because of that aku kesian. Bersusah payah for her kids. Why ? She wants to feel wanted ? And needed ?
She feels that the only reason we would come home of there are food on the table ? You know while we were there, she made drinks and poured them in our glasses. Layan cucu and menantu makan, topping our bowls and all.
Pernah sekali aku nak test dia. So while eating I told her teringin makan bubur gandum. And bubur gandum appeared on her table the next day. Nasib baik next day kalau dan dan tu jugak aku rasa aku pengsan kot.
HEhehehehehe..........
So... that is why aku kesian dengan makcik tu. Dragging her feet (she was a bit) to do what she knows best, feeding and nurturing her family while they still want her.
Sigh.......
4 comments:
CPK : She (the makcik) may have her reasons; but from a mother's perspective - I can see myself doing the same thing your mum is doing now. And when I (will) do it - it is not because of the quest to be needed but rather we want to do it for our kids. Out of love.
The greatest joy a mother could ever have is to see her children happy around her - stuffing their faces silly with food included :-)
If my kids were to have the same feelings as you do now (which I can anticipate they would) - all I can say to them is - humour me. Be my muse. Layan saja...:P
Hehehhe.... you are probably right. But everytime I see her tired face, I'd feel guilty....
ya allah aku nak nangis tingat kat mak aku pulak. kasih mak ni memang sampai ke syurga kan. sebakk...
Yalah Ana..Tapi aku ada bayangan nak suruh mak aku dok diam2 berehat... Bukannya macam ni.. But I know.... seperti tajuk entry ini... I will do the same... hahahaha
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